3 MINUTE READ ON BEING YOURSELF, RECOGNISING YOUR OWN POWER AND TRUE FRIENDSHIP.
Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…
Something to remind yourself…
Last week I heard Chris Williamson say: “This guy was asked who his best friend was, and he said ‘I’m not sure. That’s a bit of a strange question after age 12′. So, the question was asked differently which was ‘Who do you have the least amount of filter with when you’re around them?’ and I think that is such a good reframe. These are the people that you should prioritize your time with because we all feel the compulsion to change ourselves to fit in. We adjust our behaviors and our words and our nature and everything in an attempt to be liked and validated and accepted. The more people who make it feel safe for you to truly be yourself around them the more confidence that you have to be that person every day.” I thought it was such a great way of describing true friendship.
Last week I heard Chris Williamson say: “This guy was asked who his best friend was, and he said ‘I’m not sure. That’s a bit of a strange question after age 12′. So, the question was asked differently which was ‘Who do you have the least amount of filter with when you’re around them?’ and I think that is such a good reframe. These are the people that you should prioritize your time with because we all feel the compulsion to change ourselves to fit in. We adjust our behaviors and our words and our nature and everything in an attempt to be liked and validated and accepted. The more people who make it feel safe for you to truly be yourself around them the more confidence that you have to be that person every day.” I thought it was such a great way of describing true friendship.
I.
It’s okay to let go of relationships that no longer serve you. Sometimes you grow together, sometimes you grow apart. Sometimes friendships cost more than they yield. Sometimes we drift away from loved ones, sometimes family relationships become debilitating and toxic. Setting boundaries with people who mentally exhaust us or severing relationships that do us more harm than good is one of the most important forms of self-care and self-love.
II.
Life will regularly send people to you to see if you have really learned your lesson. A lot of people are not your type, they are just your pattern. Oh, you thought you dealt with that trauma? Well, let’s see how fast you fall into this guy’s arms. Oh, you’re not stuck in that dependent pattern anymore? Let’s see what happens when exactly that type of person comes into your life. Relationships are the place where all our old pain holds a party. So, it is very important to realize that the more you heal, the more you experience what it is like to feel good, the less you will want to allow negativity and drama in your life. Relationships are the greatest test to see if we can truly leave the past behind, take the lessons learned and make new connections with the version of ourselves we want to be. Relationships will continue to challenge and trigger you, but each time you stay true to yourself, you will see that relationships also amplify your growth tremendously. It’s true. Relationships bring out the worst, but also the best in us. Choose your path.
It’s okay to let go of relationships that no longer serve you. Sometimes you grow together, sometimes you grow apart. Sometimes friendships cost more than they yield. Sometimes we drift away from loved ones, sometimes family relationships become debilitating and toxic. Setting boundaries with people who mentally exhaust us or severing relationships that do us more harm than good is one of the most important forms of self-care and self-love.
II.
Life will regularly send people to you to see if you have really learned your lesson. A lot of people are not your type, they are just your pattern. Oh, you thought you dealt with that trauma? Well, let’s see how fast you fall into this guy’s arms. Oh, you’re not stuck in that dependent pattern anymore? Let’s see what happens when exactly that type of person comes into your life. Relationships are the place where all our old pain holds a party. So, it is very important to realize that the more you heal, the more you experience what it is like to feel good, the less you will want to allow negativity and drama in your life. Relationships are the greatest test to see if we can truly leave the past behind, take the lessons learned and make new connections with the version of ourselves we want to be. Relationships will continue to challenge and trigger you, but each time you stay true to yourself, you will see that relationships also amplify your growth tremendously. It’s true. Relationships bring out the worst, but also the best in us. Choose your path.
A quote that I loved…
If anyone is gonna magical appear and suddenly make your life better, just know that person is always going to be you.
– Brianna Pastor
A question to ask yourself…
What do I consider essential for a good friendship and does everyone in my inner circle meet this standard?
Have an amazing week!
Love,
Kelly