3 MINUTE READ ON HEALTHY LOVE, BYE NEGATIVITY AND ME-TIME
Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…
Something to remind yourself…
I saw this short video of Adam Cam that was spot on in describing what true love is. “More couples need to understand this…if your partner ever comes to you with something that you’ve said or done that they ain’t happy with, don’t get f*cking offended and don’t take it as a personal attack because it’s not. It’s actually a healthy sign that they value the relationship and they want to make it work. It’s a heads up. You communicate, you fix, and you stay. That’s emotional maturity, that’s commitment and that’s healthy love”. Well said by Adam. True lasting love isn’t perfect, it’s just between two people willing to make it work.
A garden where the flowers are watered, the plants are pruned and the garden beds are occasionally weeded looks much better than one that isn’t maintained. This applies to just about everything in life. Everything works as long as we put in the work. Investing time and energy is a conscious choice. I’m very mindful about which priorities I want to focus on at different times of my life and love is one of those. I consciously choose to devote my energy to love. Not that I necessarily always feel like doing that, but it’s important for my happiness. And it’s important if you want to make something work because everything that’s worth it takes time.
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What’s my number-one relationship insight? Truly making time for each other, truly making time for love. Especially during those hectic years of working on your career and or having kids it’s smart to keep a close eye on the balance and cadence in your schedule. In that period of your life, spending time together is almost never a given, so don’t take it for granted. Seize those moments! Ensure there’s time for difficult conversations and for nice, relaxing chats. Make time to laugh together, to act a bit crazy every now and then, to do exciting stuff and to just basically really be with each other. And yes, the same applies to sex. I like to put it this way: if the sex is good, it accounts for 10 percent of your relationship; if it’s bad, it takes up 90 percent. It’s important to consciously choose and to invest time and energy in your love life. Keep communicating about your needs.
Hope you heal is my new response to negativity.
– Natalie Rose
A question to ask yourself…
Have an amazing week!
Love,
Kelly