Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…
Something to remind yourself…
Anne Hathaway perfectly captures a truth we all need to hear about self-worth and resilience. Spot on, these words from her: “If you don’t love yourself, when someone else says horrible things about you, a part of you is always going to believe them. So then I was like: okay, I don’t want to believe these people. I don’t want to agree with them on any level. I want to figure out who I am. I want to learn who I am. And I don’t want to feel fragile every time I leave the house because I’m so dependent on what other people think about me. I feel like I’ve arrived at a place where, you know, maybe not every minute of every day, but way more than I used to, I have a tremendous amount of love and compassion for everyone else. And best of all, I have it for myself.”
I.
Validation is something we all crave, it’s wired into us. But here’s the thing: when you rely on external validation, you’re handing your self-worth over to other people. And let’s be honest, their opinions are constantly changing and often say more about them than about you. True confidence comes from internal validation. It’s about backing yourself, celebrating your wins, and saying, “I’m proud of me,” without needing anyone else to agree. Research shows that people who validate themselves feel more confident, stable, and at peace. So stop chasing approval, it’s fleeting. The only validation that truly matters is your own.
II.
Practice self-love as a daily habit. Self-love isn’t something you achieve once and forget, it’s a practice. Speak to yourself kindly, just like you would to a friend. When you catch yourself being self-critical, flip the script: “What would I tell my best friend in this moment?” The more compassion you show yourself, the stronger and more resilient you’ll become. It’s a game changer!
A quote that I loved…
Some years you win. Some years you build character.
– Steve Jobs
A question to ask yourself…
What’s a recurring thought or belief I have about myself? Is it helpful, and where did it come from?
Love,
Kelly