3 MINUTE READ ON PERFECT LOVE, HEALING AND WHY YOU SHOULD STOP WAITING
Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…
Something to remind yourself…
Chris Rock offers a funny yet insightful perspective on what makes relationships work: “People say, ‘Oh, relationships are tough.’ No, they’re not. They’re only tough when one person is doing all the work. Two people can move a couch real easy; one person can’t move it at all. If you’re in a relationship, let me help you out right now. Rule one: stop competing. Her success is your success, and your success is her success. Rule two: there is no equality in a relationship. It’s not about being ‘equals.’ You’re both there to serve each other. You’re in the service industry, okay?
Think of it like being in a band. In a band, you have roles. Sometimes you sing lead, and sometimes you’re on tambourine. And if you’re on tambourine, play it right. Play it with a smile because nobody wants to see a mad tambourine player.” So good AND true lol!
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Let’s be real: if someone’s telling you that relationships don’t require work, they’ve probably never been in a real one, or they’re selling you some Instagram-perfect nonsense. Relationships do require work. Not the exhausting, draining kind of work, but the intentional, meaningful kind.
It’s about showing up for each other, even when life gets messy. It’s having the tough conversations, making the time, and choosing each other daily, not just when it’s easy or convenient. Love isn’t a fairy tale where everything magically falls into place. It’s about putting in the effort to grow together, to support each other, and to keep the connection alive.
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Let’s be real: if someone’s telling you that relationships don’t require work, they’ve probably never been in a real one, or they’re selling you some Instagram-perfect nonsense. Relationships do require work. Not the exhausting, draining kind of work, but the intentional, meaningful kind.
It’s about showing up for each other, even when life gets messy. It’s having the tough conversations, making the time, and choosing each other daily, not just when it’s easy or convenient. Love isn’t a fairy tale where everything magically falls into place. It’s about putting in the effort to grow together, to support each other, and to keep the connection alive.
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My number-one relationship insight? Truly making time for each other, truly making time for love. Especially during those hectic years, it’s smart to keep a close eye on the balance and cadence in your schedule. In that period of your life, spending time together is almost never a given, so don’t take it for granted. Seize those moments! Ensure there’s time for difficult conversations and for nice, relaxing chats. Make time to laugh together, to act a bit crazy now and then, to do exciting stuff and to just basically really be with each other without distractions.
A quote that I loved…
Healing also means taking an honest look at the role you play in your own suffering.
– unknown
A question to ask yourself…
Healing also means taking an honest look at the role you play in your own suffering.
– unknown
A question to ask yourself…
What am I unconsciously waiting for to feel happy, and how can I create that feeling now?
Love,
Kelly
Kelly