Happy Life newsletter talking what silence says and more

3 MINUTE READ ON A HACK TO STAY TRUE TO YOU, WHAT SILENCE SAYS AND YOUR BIGGEST LESSON

Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

One of the most important things you need when you want to stay true to yourself are boundaries. I think Sharon Stone described it well: “Everybody really likes you when you do everything everyone asks and tells you to do. And nobody likes you when you have boundaries. And I had to learn to grow some boundaries. And the more that I understood what boundaries really meant through therapy the less people started to like me and the more I understood how fantastic and healthy that was”.

I.

I believe that setting boundaries doesn’t make you disliked by everyone, it makes you liked by the right people. People that you align with. People that lack boundaries lack personality. Boundaries helps someone understand who you really are. The more I learned to stop people pleasing and the more boundaries I had the more amazing people came into my life that love me for who I am and with whom I can be myself.Setting boundaries may sound negative, but it is actually an important building block in making your relationships closer. When you can properly communicate who you are, what you do and how you want things to be, it becomes much easier for others to read you, understand you and meet your needs. People will like you for YOU.

II.

Saying “yes” while thinking “no” might very well be one of the main reasons people feel out of balance. Properly setting boundaries is a good thing, because people will know who you really are, what you’re passionate about and what they can expect from you. Being authentic will make you (re)claim your boundaries and that’s something some people will struggle with as they benefit from you not having them. What you have to understand: people around you need to allow you to be yourself. They need to support you in how you want to lead your life, because those choices bring you joy, even though your friends might make completely different choices themselves. And maybe you also handled things differently before, but you’ve grown since then. Especially when you’ve been friends or lovers for a long time and you were both very young when you met, it’s obvious that you will both change and possibly develop in different ways. It’s important to allow each other that personal growth. For me, it’s super important that the people in my inner circle are happy. And the most beautiful insight is that I now also have the courage to allow myself to expect that in return.

A quote that I loved…

Sometimes the best reaction is no reaction. Not everyone deserves your time and energy.

– Kelly Weekers

A question to ask yourself…

What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life to date? How can that knowledge help you live a happier life?

Have an amazing week!

Love,
Kelly