Happy Life newsletter talking about being selfish is healthy and more

 

3 MINUTE READ ABOUT WHY BEING SELFISH IS HEALTHY, WHY YOU SHOULD DREAM BIG AND A QUESTION TO HELP YOU BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND.

Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…


Something to remind yourself…


I’ve listened to the Jay Shetty’s On Purpose podcast with Emma Grede as his guest and I loved that Emma mentioned: ‘You do have to think about yourself because nobody else is thinking about that for you. Everybody else is to busy thinking about themselves.”


I.

Selfishness is, to some extent, very healthy. It is a form of self-protection that has nothing to do with thinking you are fantastic – although you certainly can – but has everything to do with loving yourself in a healthy way. It means loving yourself enough to respect and protect your own energy, time, and attention. Healthy selfishness makes you give yourself at least the same respect and attention as those around you. It means that you consider your own opinion about something at least as important as someone else’s. Choosing for yourself is not just about saying ‘yes’ to yourself. It is learning to say no to people and things that only cause you stress, without feeling guilty about it. Healthy selfishness is understanding that people may think or expect certain things, but that you get to decide what to do with those expectations.

II.

Deep connections with others are essential for a healthy and happy life and a more beautiful world. And for that very reason, healthy selfishness is something we should accept, normalize, and fully embrace. We all benefit enormously from it. The better we take care of ourselves, the better we can take care of others. And the happier we are, the more we can contribute to the happiness of everyone around us.
A quote that I loved…


People be like “that’s not realistic”, as if the entire universe is not a living miracle beyond our wildest imagination.

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A question to ask yourself…


If you look at the closest friendship you have, what kind of friend are you to this person? And what do you have to change in the relationship that you have with yourself to be more like your own best friend and give yourself that same kind of love?

Have an amazing week!

Love,
Kelly