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3 MINUTE READ ABOUT MOVING ON, SELF-IMAGE AND LOVING YOURSELF.
Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week… Something to remind yourself…
Just a few weeks ago I saw a graduation speech by Rodger Federer that I absolutely loved. In this speech he shared: “In the 1,526 singles matches I played in my career, I won almost 80 percent of those matches. Now, I have a question for all of you. What percentage of the points do you think I won in those matches? 54 percent, in other words even top-ranked tennis players win barely more than half of the points they play. When you lose every second point on average you learn not to dwell on every shot. You teach yourself to think, “Okay, I double faulted. It’s only a point. So here’s why I’m telling you this. When you’re playing a point, it has to be the most important thing in the world and it is. But when it’s behind you, it’s behind you. This mindset is really crucial because it frees you to fully commit to the next point. The truth is, whatever game you play in life, sometimes, you’re going to lose a point, a match, a season, a job. It’s a rollercoaster with many ups and downs, and it’s natural when you’re down to doubt yourself and to feel sorry for yourself. But negative energy is wasted energy. You want to become a master at overcoming hard moments. That is, to me, the sign of a champion, the best in the world and not the best, because they win every point. It’s because they know they’ll lose again and again, and have learned how to deal with it.” I. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs. Off days, bad moments, unfortunate events – there’s no way to avoid these. That’s life. However, you are in charge of how you react to things that come your way. Of course, there are biological factors at play as well, but your mindset is key in all this. Are you someone who primarily sees problems or solutions? Do you tend to blame others or take responsibility for your own stuff? Do you live in the past or in the present? Do you focus on what you’re missing or on what you have? Whether you realize it or not, those are choices you make every single day. It’s our way of organizing the 24 hours in a day. And day after day, that is what makes the difference between feeling stressed or relaxed, losing control or feeling in control, feeling dissatisfied or satisfied, being unhappy or happy. II.
Many people find it difficult to let go of the past. We play back the movie of a past event over and over, wondering whether what we said and did was okay. Like, shouldn’t I have told my friend the truth the other day, instead of just nodding and agreeing? Thoughts about past events frequently trigger regret, sorrow or stress, but there’s precious little to gain from them. After all, we can’t change the past, no matter how hard we try. All that time and energy spent on the past, thinking “if only I had,” and “if only I were” is pointless. Unless you manage to transform those memories into helpful behavior for the future. Like that conversation with a friend; you might not be happy with your reaction and how it went, but you can decide to do it differently next time. Take active control by only allowing yourself thoughts that help you move forward. A quote that I loved…
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