3 MINUTE READ ON BEING STUCK IN DOUBT, TRUE CONNECTIONS AND GOING FOR WHAT YOU WANT

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

Matthew McConaughey is so right about this: If you’re going to do it, do it. Say what you can do. Do what you say. If you can’t do it, don’t say you can. Don’t overleverage yourself. Don’t overleverage the decision and then jump in, kind of dipping a toe—I think I’ll try it out. No. Think beforehand if you’re going to try it out. But when it’s time to go, dive in. Finish it. Find out. Come out the other side.

Don’t leave it and go, Ooh, if I just would have… That keeps me up at night. I think it keeps a lot of us up at night—when you half-ass something and you just don’t know whether you failed or succeeded, got what you wanted or didn’t.

Finding out, looking in the mirror, and saying, I didn’t half-ass it. I went all the way. I found out. And that’s not for me. Or, I found out, and damn right, that is for me.

That’s a great place to get to. But the limbo of not knowing? The limbo of thinking, Did I hedge my bet?—that’s what really haunts you.

I.

You’re always making a choice—whether you realize it or not. Choosing not to act is still a choice. Waiting, hesitating, overthinking—it’s just choosing to stay exactly where you are. And if something keeps pulling at you, if the doubt lingers, you might as well find out. Because the only way to stop wondering is to step into it. Either you’ll realize it’s not for you and move on, or you’ll find exactly what you were meant for. Either way, you win.

II.

If you’re stuck in doubt, here’s how to get clear on whether you should go for it or let it go.

1. The 5-Year Rule – Imagine yourself five years from now. You didn’t go for it. You played it safe. How does that version of you feel? Regretful? Relieved? Now flip it: Imagine you did go for it. What’s different? What excites you?

2. Write the Worst & Best Case Scenario –

• What’s the absolute worst thing that could happen if you try?

• What’s the absolute best thing that could happen?

• Can you handle the worst? And is the best worth the risk?

3. The Gut Check – Close your eyes and say: “I am choosing not to do this.” Notice how your body reacts. Do you feel relief or tension? Now say: “I am going for it.” What happens inside? Your body often knows before your mind does.

Final Step: If your gut pulls you toward it and your fear is the only thing stopping you, you already have your answer.

A quote that I loved…

We’re really on borrowed time. Choose people that choose you, and let everyone else be.

– Yung Pueblo

A question to ask yourself…

Where am I playing small when I know I’m capable of more?

Love,
Kelly