Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…
Something to remind yourself…
”Has it changed? Yes. Is he a different kind of husband now than he was? Yeah. In all those years, with all the pressure? Well, you know what? No, I think he’s been pretty consistent, you know? I’ve grown, I’ve changed. I’ve learned that, you know, over these years that I, you know, I have to make myself happy, you know? It goes back to the lessons from my father. He’s not responsible for my happiness. He loves me, he cares about me, but most of my unhappiness had to do with choices I was making. Like, I had to be the perfect mother. I had to do everything right. I had to hold down a job and make sure that I was holding myself to a standard that was stressful for me. And also impossible. And absolutely impossible. Because you can have it all, perhaps, but you can’t have it all at the same time. Let us say that again. You say it. You can have it all, but not at the same time. You really can’t, you know? That whole—no, it is impossible, especially if you want to be a good parent, you know, and spend any time with your kids. It’s a tough balancing act.” I couldn’t agree more, Michelle Obama!
I.
Life moves in ebbs and flows, and in every phase, you get to decide what matters most. There’s this pressure—sometimes from society, sometimes from others, but mostly from ourselves—to do it all, all at once, and do it perfectly. But the truth is, you can have it all, just not at the same time. Some seasons are for career growth, some are for deepening relationships, some are for rest, and some are for full speed ahead. The only person truly telling you that you have to do it all, all at once, is you. And that’s where the real freedom comes in—when you realize you get to choose where your energy goes and give yourself permission to not carry it all at the same time.
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The most important thing I did? I asked for help. And it changed everything. I used to think I can do it all myself—and technically, I could. But just because you can doesn’t mean you should. The moment I allowed people to help me, everything got lighter. More time, more ease, more space to actually enjoy the life I was building instead of just managing it. If asking for help feels uncomfortable, start small:
• Delegate one task—at home, at work, anywhere. Just one.
• Be honest with your inner circle—tell a friend, partner, or colleague what’s truly overwhelming you.
• Trade support—help someone in an area you thrive in and let them support you where you struggle.
• Hire where you can—whether it’s a cleaner, an assistant, or a babysitter, if it makes life easier, it’s worth it.
The biggest mindset shift? Accepting help isn’t weakness. It’s strategy. And it frees you up to focus on what truly matters.
A quote that I loved…
I like to go with the flow. My flow. Not yours.
– Poster Journal
A question to ask yourself…
What would change in my life if I allowed myself to receive more support?
Letting people in isn’t about giving up control. It’s about making life lighter and giving yourself permission to focus on what truly matters.
Love,
Kelly