3 MINUTE READ ON CHOICES, HAPPINESS AND TRUST

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

Tim Grover articulates this with absolute precision: “If you’re looking for outside validation, you don’t trust yourself. You don’t trust the words you speak to yourself. How many times have you asked somebody a question that you already know the answer for? You already know the answer. You’re just looking for somebody else to validate or give you an excuse out. Most of you probably received my book, From Good to Great to Unstoppable. You know what most individuals, you know what they’re good, great and unstoppable at? Making things worse.” Lol, he’s absolutely right. We should stop making things worse for ourselves. It’s very easy to make things hard and very hard to keep things simple.

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Remember: you always have a choice. Whether it’s the voice in your head, the habits you build, or the way you react to challenges: you decide. If you’re constantly looking for external validation, you’re choosing doubt over confidence. If you’re waiting for someone else to tell you it’s okay to go after what you want, you’re choosing hesitation over action. And let me tell you, I’ve been there. But the most freeing moment in my life was realizing that no one was coming to give me permission. I had to choose myself first.

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I’ve been there asking for advice on things I already knew the answer to. Not because I needed input, but because I didn’t fully trust myself yet. It felt safer to hear someone else say, Yes, go for it. Or even better, No, don’t risk it, so I had an excuse to stay in my comfort zone. But here’s the thing: waiting for outside validation keeps you stuck. The moment I stopped outsourcing my confidence and started backing my own decisions, everything shifted.

A quote that I loved…
Happiness is wanting what you already have.
– Kelly Weekers


A question to ask yourself…
Before you ask for advice, set the tone. Instead of looking for someone else to validate your choice, start with a mantra:
“I’m capable. I’m smart. I live a life that is true to me.”

Then ask yourself: What do I think I should do in this situation?

When you trust yourself first, the answer becomes a lot clearer.

 

Love,
Kelly